The following is a list of common questions I received from women/men who read my first book, Brain over Binge.  All of these questions and more are now thoroughly covered in my second book, The Brain over Binge Recovery Guide.

I have grouped the questions into 3 categories:  1.) Dismissing Binge Urges   2.) Eating/Weight, and 3.)  More Help


  •  I want to quit binge eating, but I’m finding it difficult to dismiss binge urges.

You can see my blog posts Tips for Beginners, and Tips for Beginners…Continued (Inspirational Testimony), which both give additional advice to people who are finding it difficult to stop acting on their urges to binge.


  •  I didn’t binge for a few days/week/month after reading the book, but then I started again.

The first thing to do is to realize you haven’t failed, and you certainly don’t have to “start over.” Some people recover right away, and for some people, learning to detach from binge urges is a gradual process. I binged 2 more times after implementing the methods I describe in my books, but I didn’t take those 2 binges as evidence that I was out of control again. I used the binges as opportunities to figure out how my lower brain got the better of me.  Don’t think of a binge as a catastrophic event; instead think that you simply didn’t detach from your binge urge, and you temporarily believed your lower brain. Try to determine the point when you stopped experiencing your urges as a detached observer, so that you can be better prepared next time.   


  •    I fear giving up binge eating.

I’ve heard this concern from several people, and while I understand the feelings behind it; I think if you think about your life and what you want it to be, you’ll find that you fear continuing to binge much more than you fear giving it up. The lower brain—on the other hand—sends messages telling you that you “can’t live without binge eating,” and that life without it would be “scary.” This is neurological junk that you will need to learn to disregard. I’ve written 2 blog posts about fearing quitting:  Getting Past the Fear of Quitting, and Facing Fears. 


  •   I feel like “I” want to binge. I do not feel separate from my lower brain.

Please see my blog post Do You Truly Want to Quit? for advice on this issue.


  •  How long does it take for the urges to go away?

Everyone’s experience is different, but for me it took about 9 months for all remnants of my binge urges to go away. That does not mean I struggled with strong urges for 9 months; because after a few months it became completely effortless not to binge. Automatic thoughts/feelings would still pop up from time to time, very infrequently; and it simply became a matter of refusing to give those thoughts any attention or consideration whatsoever.

Even after the first few weeks of being binge-free, I noticed a significant reduction in the intensity and frequency of urges. The urges gradually diminished over time, although it didn’t always seem like a linear process. Some days during the first several weeks, the urges wouldn’t arise much at all; but other days I would have more persistent urges.


  • I’m having trouble determining what is a binge and what is not.

See my blog posts Binge Subjectivity, and Non-Hungry Cravings.

To be successful, I truly believe you can’t think that the choices are either to 1.) eat perfectly or 2.)binge. I don’t think it’s useful to view your lower brain as your “unhealthy eating” brain, and your higher brain as your “healthy/clean eating/perfect” brain. You cannot equate all food cravings with binge urges, because you’ll put yourself in a situation where you believe that following a desire for an extra serving, or choosing to have a dessert or some unhealthy food means that you’ve already followed your lower brain and you are a failure. Brain over Binge is not a diet! Having less than healthy foods, following some cravings in moderation, and even eating a bit more than usual doesn’t mean you are then destined to binge.


  •  I feel like my case is different (I have a coexisting problem(s) that prevents me from quitting)

To address these concerns, I’ve written the following blog posts:  “My Case is Different,”  and Pain.




  • I don’t know how to eat normally.

Learning how to eat normally after binge eating stops is a challenge for many, and some people feel it’s necessary to use meal plans and/or consult a nutritionist when they first stop binge eating. Eating is highly individual, and there is no one “right” way that works for everyone.

That being said, I can give you a few things to think about in relation to eating normally. First and foremost, it’s vital to eat enough and don’t diet restrictively. By ‘don’t diet,’ I don’t mean you can’t try to eat healthy. When I recovered, I tried, and I still try to eat relatively healthy—although I certainly don’t always eat healthy and I definitely allow myself to have all types of food in moderation. I think as long as you aren’t putting severe limits on what you eat or denying yourself a sufficient number of calories, you are on the right track.

You do not need to strive for perfection at this time. I do value eating well, but I think when I first quit binge eating it was very helpful to have a relaxed attitude about my eating, and not to put pressure on myself to eat exactly right.

The following blog post might be a good place to start in thinking about how to eat normally:  Enjoy Your Food


  • How much should I eat?

The following blog post addresses food quantity:  How Much Should I Eat?


  •  What if I need to lose weight?

For all weight-related questions, please see the following blog post: Weight After Recovery


  •  I want to give up dieting; can I still focus on eating healthy?  

I don’t think there is anything wrong with being passionate about eating well, or making positive changes in the quality of foods you eat. I don’t think changing eating habits to make them healthier and more nourishing is “dieting,” provided you are not denying your body needed calories/nutrition, or being overly rigid/restrictive. However, when it becomes a stressful obsession that takes over too much of your life, then it’s not good for you.

I think when people are truly focused on becoming healthier, then it’s not about trying to lose X number of pounds, staying under a certain number of calories per day, or fitting into a particular size jeans. Truly focusing on health means making an effort to nourish your body well so that you feel better, gain energy for living, and prevent disease. And, usually, if you focus on nourishing your body well, your weight will simply take care of itself.

For more, see the following blog posts:  What is Healthy? and  Paleo Eating, my diet, and fudge,


  • I want to or need to give up certain foods for health reasons

Please read the following blog posts which address eliminating unhealthy and/or problematic foods: Eliminating Foods Part 1,  Part 2, and Part 3 .


  • I’m not sure when I’m hungry or full.

When I first quit binge eating, I didn’t rely purely on my hunger/fullness signals. I had to eat based on what I believed to be a normal diet, and then my hunger/fullness fell in line–and surprisingly, this happened very quickly! Since binge eating does alter hunger/satiety mechanisms in the body/brain, when you are newly recovered, you may sometimes question whether you are truly hungry or not. When in doubt, I personally erred on the side of eating something when I felt what seemed like true hunger; because I think it was important to let my body know I wasn’t going to starve it anymore.

If I felt hungry when I thought I “shouldn’t” be based on when I last ate, I’d often set a mental limit before eating (for example, I’d decide I was going to have a sandwich, or a container of yogurt, or a banana…etc, based on how hungry I felt). Then, if I still felt unsatisfied afterward and felt an urge to binge creeping in, that’s what I labeled the neurological junk (not the original questionable hunger signal). I knew when I followed questionable hunger signals, my lower brain might try to use that to get what it wanted – a binge – so I was well aware that urges would likely arise and I was prepared for them.

It didn’t take long before I stopped needing to set a mental limits, because I could easily trust my hunger/fullness; and the idea of eating beyond the feeling of fullness was no longer appealing. This doesn’t mean I never have an extra serving of something; or indulge in a delicious dessert after I’m full from a meal. Likewise, I am sometimes too busy or in a situation where I can’t eat until a while after I feel hunger. Hunger and fullness are definitely the primary cues for eating, but don’t expect yourself to follow those cues 100 percent of the time.

Please see my blog posts Listen to Your Body, and Intuitive Eating or Not? for more on hunger/fullness.


  •  I have stopped binge eating, but I’m still overeating / eating more than I think I should.

I’ve addressed overeating in 3 blog posts: Overeating Part 1, Part 2, Part 3.


  • I stopped binge eating, but I still have cravings.

Please see my blog post titled Non-Hungry Cravings for a discussion of this.


  • Should I avoid alcohol while I try to quit binge eating?

Please see the following blog post:  Should I Drink Alcohol While Trying to Quit Binge Eating?


  • I am obsessed with food and weight.

Dieting/weight/food obsessions can be difficult for some people to deal with. Even if you stop binge eating, it’s possible for some of those issues to remain. Sadly, so many women (and men) struggle with this, and it’s rare to find a woman who doesn’t want to change something about her body. I am not trying to say that weight/food obsessions are normal and we should just accept that; instead I’m pointing out that struggling with food and weight isn’t exclusive to people with eating disorders. Most people can keep body image issues in perspective, but if your concerns about your weight interfere with your life and consume your thoughts; then it’s definitely something to address.

I realize that for some of you, stopping binge eating is not all you need to feel like your problems with food and weight are over. But, without stopping binge eating, it’s unlikely that you will ever be able to decrease your food/weight obsessions. Once binge eating is out of the way, you may find that many of your concerns about food and weight simply go away on their own; and you’ll definitely be in a better position to tackle any issues that remain. I’m not an expert in helping people develop a great body image, but one tool you can use is to treat harmful body thoughts like you treat urges to binge–as neurological junk.




  •  Do you offer one-on-one services? 

I am not currently offering private coaching.  I offer an 8-week Group Course which includes support from me and Master Coach Cookie Rosenblum.


  •  Should I seek medical attention for my bulimia or BED?

As stated on the copyright page of my book: “Brain over Binge is a personal story of recovery. It is not intended to replace the services of trained health professionals or be a substitute for medical advice. You are advised to consult with your healthcare professional with regard to matters relating to your health, and in particular, regarding matters that may require diagnosis or medical attention.”

Binge eating and purging can have serious health consequences, especially in those who frequently self-induce vomiting. Please do not take a risk with your health. If you are experiencing concerning symptoms, please seek medical help right away. Although I disagree with many of the mainstream therapeutic approaches (which treat the eating disorder as an emotional or psychological problem), I believe that medical monitoring and nutritional support are necessary for some people.


  •  Are there any other books you recommend?

Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpey (A 1996 book on substance addiction, which helped me take responsibility for my own recovery from bulimia)

The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal (A practical book on using self-control to end habits that don’t serve you well. It explains the science behind willpower, and helps you put your brain to work for you).

Ditching Diets by Gillian Riley (This is a helpful, easy-to-read book for anyone who wants to learn how to eat well – without dieting, obsessing over food, or overeating.) Gillian also has a website, eatingless.com.

The Mind and the Brain by Jeffrey Schwartz (This book explains the science behind neuroplasticity. It helped explain why my binge eating habit faded after I stopped acting on the urges.)

You are Not Your Brain by Jeffrey Schwartz (A self-help guide to using neuroplasticity to overcome bad habits and challenges)

Being Human by Amy Johnson (Although not specifically about eating disorders, this book–as well as Amy’s previous book, Modern Enlightenment–can help you overcome/make peace with harmful thoughts.)

Clearing your Path to Permanent Weight Loss: The truth about why you’ve failed in the past, and what you must know to succeed now by Cookie Rosenblum (This is written by a weight loss coach that understands binge eating, the importance of avoiding starvation diets, and how lasting weight loss is achieved)

Before I Eat: A Moment In The Zone Guidebook: Real-Time Tools To Manage Eating Urges and Food Cravings by Alen Standish, a former binge eater and podcaster.

Before I Eat: A Moment in the Zone (App) also by Alen Standish.  This is the first App to help recovering binge eaters. It offers a variety of tools to help you navigate binge urges, as well as motivational coaching sessions, progress tracking, and a reward system for success. You can pick and choose the tools that are most practical for you.

The Bulimia Help Method, by Richard Kerr, founder of bulmiahelp.org. The method is a five-step process that teaches those seeking recovery how to stop bingeing, relearn normal eating, and achieve lifelong recovery.  


  • Are there any other direct support resources you recommend if I am still struggling?

Cookie Rosenblum, Master Coach. I highly recommend Cookie, especially for those struggling with weight issues while recovering or after recovering from binge eating. Cookie has personal and professional experience with binge eating, and truly understands weight loss without dieting.

Amy Johnson, Psychologist and Life Coach:  Amy works with clients on all habits, including binge eating.  Amy is a recovered binge eater, and offers transformational insights on letting go of harmful behaviors.

The Bulimia Help Program (bulimiahelp.org).  This is a comprehensive web-based home treatment program and support network for recovering binge eaters that focuses on ending dieting, relearning normal eating, and putting a stop to the harmful binge/purge cycle–without all the complexity of traditional approaches.

Pauline Hanuise, Holistic Health and Bulimia Recovery Coach. Pauline offers many great resources, including her comprehensive online recovery program 

Stacey (Binge Free Me), Holistic Health and Lifestyle Coach.  Stacey recovered from binge eating using neuroplasticity and now helps others do the same. She has extensive training in nutrition, which is an amazing asset to those who want more guidance in healthy eating.

Wendy Hendry, Personal Health Coach. Wendy recovered from 35 years of binge eating after reading Brain over Binge. Because of her personal experience, she understands how to guide binge eaters toward healthier lifestyles.

Lydia Wente is a Lifestyle coach and creator of the fun video series “Meet Your Brains” to help you further understand and utilize the Brain over Binge Principles. You can find her videos here: http://bit.ly/1MVCqyc.  She also offers a free eBook, How to Stop Binge Eating…and be Successful at Everything Else.” 

Polly Mertons, Bulimia Recovery Coach.  Polly is a recovered bulimic who runs the website GetBusyThriving.com. She offers coaching as well as other helpful information for bulimics.




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